Bible, Sex, & Gender

Bible, Sex, & Gender

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Bible, Sex, & Gender
Bible, Sex, & Gender
Part 1: Diary of a Gay Baptist Girl

Part 1: Diary of a Gay Baptist Girl

How could a conservative Baptist Christian end up gay?

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Karen R. Keen
Jan 14, 2024
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When did I first realize I was gay? And how did I process that? In this three part series, I share what it’s like for a conservative Baptist teenager to discover she is gay. I include several diary clips. These are raw thoughts that are uncomfortable to share publicly, but I do so in hopes that my process will help others. I hope other gay Christians in conservative contexts might find comfort knowing they are not alone in their experience. And I hope my story will dispel common myths that being gay is a choice.

I came out of the womb a tomboy. In fact, oddly enough, the doctors told my parents to expect a boy. Mom and Dad picked out a name: Benjamin. My aunt crocheted a blue baby blanket. But, to their surprise I showed up in the delivery room in female attire. The conservative Christian world of my youth told me femininity meant quiet, docile and non-intellectual. As a naturally assertive, adventure-seeking, logical female who enjoys intellectual pursuits and leadership, I was all the things the church told me a girl couldn’t be.

Karen as a child in cowboy outfit holding a water balloon.
Karen as a child in her favorite cowboy outfit, holding a water balloon.

These rigid gender roles caused confusion. Was I a boy or a girl? I didn’t want to be a boy, but I identified more with boys and their stereotypical interests. In a word, I came out of the womb a gender atypical person, a trait scientific studies say is a common childhood predictor of sexual orientation. My mom and sister tried valiantly to persuade me that wearing dresses and make-up is fun. But rather than feeling like myself such attempts made me feel alienated, as if I was in a costume.

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